I think all citizens should perform some kind of public service. When my dad was stationed in Germany in the 80's they required all 18 year olds to enter into 2 years of service. Those who did not wish to go into the military where allowed to serve in civillian roles. I think this is a good thing. It teaches discipline and service to others. It also creates eqaulity,because EVERYONE has to serve not just those who need the oppurtunities that service can offer. The children of the rich and powerful serve right beside the middle class and poor and have an oppurtunity to see life from their POV.

 I would have to get rid of the one who insisted that I choose. I would not require my friends and my SO to be best buds,but I do expect them them to respect me enough to not play that card. I find it is them or me ultimatum's  to be very controlling and there is no way in hell that I am going to allow someone to control me like that. You ditch the SO or the friend and before you know it you will be ditching everything that they do not meet their approval.